Chores, Allowance, and Responsibility: Raising Kids with Financial Wisdom and Family Values
Parents often ask me, "What’s the best way to handle chores and allowance?" On the surface, it sounds like an easy conversation about setting up a simple system—figuring out who does what around the house, how much allowance to give, and maybe sprinkling in some lessons about saving money. But the truth is, it’s so much deeper than that. This isn't just about making sure chores get done or determining how much to pay your child. It's about how we shape our children’s understanding of contribution, responsibility, and financial values.
When Children Lie: Understanding the Behavior and Guiding Them Toward Honesty
A child might lie for a handful of reasons. Sometimes they tell a lie to avoid a consequence. Other times they lie and make up a story when seeking connection with a peer or family member. Young children might lie because they’re still learning the line between fantasy and reality. Older children may lie to maintain privacy.
Four Steps to Boost your Child’s Executive Functioning for a Peaceful Holiday Season
The holiday season is upon us and with it brings excitement as well as many schedule changes and opportunities for meltdowns. One great (and free) way to support your child during this hectic time of year is to support their nonverbal working memory. This is the part of the executive functioning (or EF) system that helps us visualize or imagine ourselves in the future as well as think about the past.
From Doulas to Docs: Building Your Professional Perinatal Support Team
In my previous blog, Perinatal Mental Health: Baby Blues and Beyond, we explored the importance of building a thoughtful and proactive support plan tailored to your unique needs during pregnancy and postpartum. A key part of that plan is establishing a strong professional support network, which can make all the difference as you navigate the physical, emotional, and psychological challenges that come with this significant life transition.
From Playroom to Parenthood: Reflections for New Caregivers
Some days I can so clearly recall the newborn phase, while other days it feels distant. As my son’s second birthday approaches, I’ve been reflecting on both the absolute joys of those early weeks of his life and also the growth these past two years — not just in him, but in me.
Perinatal Mental Health: Baby Blues and Beyond
When you think about pregnancy and parenthood, what comes to mind? For many people, it might be images of serene, glowing mothers cradling their newborns in a sea of soft pastels, like something out of a Johnson & Johnson commercial. Or maybe it’s that family feel-good movie where the baby is sleeping soundly, the doctor tells the birthing caregiver they may experience some sadness after delivery, and everyone settles into their new identity with ease and a smile.
Understanding the Impact of a Mental Health Diagnosis on Your Child
When your child begins therapy, you might be seeking a diagnosis for them, or you might want to go through the process without one, or you may be unsure if you want to have your child receive a diagnosis. There are ways in which a diagnosis can provide support to your child and family, and there are also ways that it can be a hindrance.
Mindful Beginnings: Setting Kids Up for Back-to-School Success
As a new school year begins, there's a palpable sense of excitement and hustle around the city. Families are busy with their final back-to-school shopping, schedules are being released, and the anticipation of a new season fills the air. While many children look forward to the fresh start, the return to friends, and a break from the monotony of long summer days, the new school year can also bring anxiety and uncertainty, accompanied by a wave of complex emotions.
Navigating Triggers: Using Patty Wipfler’s book Listen to Support Parents and Children
Parenting can be one of the most fulfilling yet challenging roles we undertake. There are moments of joy and connection, but there are also moments of frustration and stress, especially when a child’s behavior triggers a strong emotional reaction in us as the parent. Patty Wipfler's book, Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, offers valuable insights and practical tools to help parents navigate these challenging moments.
How to Create a Routine that Supports Your Child’s Well-Being
In Austin, we go back to school in about a month which means a change in routine. As you start to prepare for this transition, it can be helpful to consider how your child’s routine impacts them.
Here are some questions to consider when thinking about your child’s schedule.
Nurturing a Wholesome Relationship with Food
In today's world, where fast food chains dominate the landscape and processed snacks fill the aisles of supermarkets, instilling healthy eating habits in children is more crucial (and difficult!) than ever. However, teaching children to have a positive relationship with food goes beyond just making sure that they eat their fruits and vegetables. It's about fostering a mindset that can appreciate and understand the nourishing aspects of food while simultaneously enjoying the pleasures of eating.
Your Support Team During a Divorce
A few years ago, Lynn Louise Wonders, MA, LPC, CPCS, RPT-S shared an open letter to parents going through a divorce. In this letter, she shares things that help make the divorce process go smoothly for every member of the family. One of her points is to gather your adult-helpers and know what purpose each person’s job serves. Today, I want to dive a little deeper into helping you understand each of these roles.
Farewell, Not Goodbye: When Therapy Comes to an End
"Are you breaking up with us?" This sentiment is one I've encountered numerous times as I broach the topic of termination with caregivers. While the remark may appear lighthearted, it undoubtedly speaks to the depth and significance of the therapeutic relationships we, as therapists, form not only with our clients but often with the entire family system.
Implementing a Screen Time Plan
With summer break around the corner, I know that many caregivers become worried about their child using screens even more often. Children are no longer at school for a good portion of the day and it can sometimes be just too hot in Austin to stay outside for too long. However, I think the transition into summer makes a great time to implement a new media plan if you’re concerned about your child’s screen time since children understand this to be a time of new routines anyway.
Frustration Tolerance and Why it's Important
Frustration is a familiar feeling no matter who you are. No matter what age, gender, nationality, or spirituality you identify with, you know what it means to feel frustrated. It’s also likely that you know that frustration rises inside us when we want a certain outcome from our efforts and, for whatever reason, we do not achieve that outcome.
Nurturing Emotional Intelligence with Internal Family Systems (IFS)
If you’re a caregiver, you have probably thought about how to support your child’s emotional intelligence. This may look like asking your child to “use their words” to name how they are feeling, or maybe your child has a big meltdown when something they want doesn’t go as planned. Whatever the scenario, equipping children with the tools to understand their emotional world is essential for their well-being and ability to maneuver through life’s ups and downs.
Why Children Don’t Need to Talk in Play Therapy
Play therapy can seem like magic at times. Your child comes to our office for 45 minutes once a week to play and after an average of five months, they’ve completed their therapeutic goals! Their emotional regulation has improved, their anxiety has decreased, or maybe their self-esteem is higher.
From the Bookshelf of a Play Therapist and New Mom
As a therapist who has worked with children and families since my undergrad days, I was PREPARED for motherhood. Or so I thought. But, as most other parents can resonate with, parenthood is much more difficult than any outsider can imagine, and it didn’t take me long to figure this out. Once I did figure out how hard it was, I began reading both for information and entertainment. And quite honestly, as a coping skill.
Special Education 101: A Crash Course on the Individualized Education Plan
Typically caregivers are thrust into this new Special Education world abruptly, carrying with them worries about their child on their shoulders. Special Education is difficult enough to navigate on its own, let alone when the well-being of someone they care about is at stake.
Aggression in the Playroom
Typically when someone thinks of therapy, images of a calm and quiet waiting room may appear in their mind. Maybe rain sounds are playing, and the office is filled with mid-century modern furniture and earth tones. As you can imagine, play therapy tends to be a bit different. Especially the sounds!